Generation Y, also known as the Millennials, are the young people born to baby boomers between the early 1980s and mid-1990s. They have been characterized as super-consumers who live comfortably with the new realities of globalization and technology. They are defined by their individuality, optimism and ambition.
But there is a dark side. Too often statistics paint a picture of a youth reeling from brokenness. Substance abuse, suicide, crime and family breakdown are all on the rise for this generation. How can we turn the tide?
Perhaps a better question is: Who exactly is investing in our youth? Are the people of God, the church community, actively creating networks for and with them? Titus 2:6-7 says, “Encourage the young … to be self-controlled. In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity.”
Mentoring is a structured, trusting relationship that brings young people together with caring elders who offer guidance, support and encouragement. Mentors help youth by exploring the values of Christian faith, assisting them in life’s concerns and nurturing their leadership potential.
Mentors don’t replace parents, guardians or teachers, nor are they disciplinarians or decision-makers for children or youth. Rather, they reinforce the positive values and cultural heritage that parents and guardians are teaching. They encourage healthy choices, promote self-esteem, support academic achievement, introduce the young person to new ideas and listen to concerns.
The mentor-mentee partnership could be for a season of a young person’s life or span many years. Mentors can operate individually or as part of a team of caring adults. The important factor is that mentors consistently invest time in their mentees, meeting with them at least once a month for a few hours.
What does it take to begin a mentoring partnership? It doesn’t have to be complicated or program-based. Rather, the goal is to create a bridge where young people feel connected to community. Mentoring activities can include going for a walk, getting a milkshake together, talking about goals, reading the Bible, learning a sport, planning a project, watching a movie—any activity that promotes healthy lifestyle choices and can be a catalyst for dialogue.
The trust required for a mentor-mentee connection takes time to cultivate. Maybe there are young people with whom you already have a rapport. For others, the trust element may need time to develop through caring interaction and conversation.
Consider safety when carrying out mentor-mentee activities. Don’t put yourself or your mentee in a situation where your actions could be misunderstood. Plan activities in public areas. If you are taking kids out as a group, think about the resources and information you will need―chaperones, travel arrangements, meals, medical history and parental contacts.
Was there someone who was instrumental in your life? Someone who nurtured, supported, listened and gave you practical care and advice? Someone who encouraged you in your relationship with God and answered tough “life questions”? If so, you know how valuable mentoring friendships will be to others. Start the cycle of mentoring for a young person that you know.